10 Science-Backed Secrets to a Happy Marriage

It turns out happily ever after can also translate to healthier ever after as married couples enjoy all types of physical and mental health benefits. Studies show marriage can help protect against heart disease and stroke and that those who say “I do” have lower levels of cortisol (aka the stress hormone). Married people even have a better shot at long-term happiness, according to one study.

It’s safe to say science believes in love. And, to that end, researchers and licensed counselors have spent a lot of time figuring out what contributes to happiness in marriage. Here are 10 of those expert-backed tips for a happy marriage.

1. Go on double dates

Friendships with other couples make for happier marriages, according to research and interviews done by University of Maryland professors. The study found that healthy couple friendships have potential to make marriages more exciting and fulfilling by increasing attraction, providing a greater understanding of men and women in general, and allowing partners to observe the way other couples interact and negotiate differences. With that said, topics like sex and money tend to be taboo in these kinds of friendships with other couples, the researchers concluded.

2. Assume the best about your spouse

When you’re having a disagreement with your partner, assume he or she has good intentions, suggests Paul DePompo, a board-certified clinical psychologist and an author and researcher on relationships who is based in Southern California. Giving your partner this benefit of the doubt will allow you to seek clarification, learn from your partner, and move forward. He or she might take a different approach that could look bad to you at first glance, but is actually well-intentioned, explains DePompo, the founder of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Institute of Southern California.

3. Have sex at least once a week

The conventional wisdom has been that more sex means greater happiness in a marriage. After all, sex releases endorphins and feel-good hormones. So, exactly how much sex should you and your spouse be having? A study published by the Society for Personality and Social Psychology in 2015 found that couples who have sex weekly are the happiest. “Although more frequent sex is associated with greater happiness, this link was no longer significant at a frequency of more than once a week,” lead researcher Amy Muise said in a news release. “Our findings suggest that it’s important to maintain an intimate connection with your partner, but you don’t need to have sex every day as long as you’re maintaining that connection.” The study was based on surveys with 30,000 Americans.

4. Argue with one another

Yup, you heard that right. One thing that makes a healthy relationship is your ability to fight well and resolve conflicts, says David Klow, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Chicago, owner of Skylight Counseling Center, and instructor at Northwestern University and Adler University. Plenty of people can find connection or excitement with another person, but the true test is being able to work through life’s challenges together.

“Similar to working out a muscle, if you can effectively survive tears in your marriage and then repair them, then it makes the relationship stronger,” says Klow, author of the new book “You Are Not Crazy: Letters From Your Therapist.”

Keep the fights fair, reminds Julie Gurner, a doctor of psychology who also works as an executive and performance coach in the Bay Area and New York City. When you fight fair, you keep your dispute focused on the topic without devolving into personal attacks, she says.

“If the fight is kept to the topic, it fades and passes in the relationship,” she explains. “But people remember personal attacks long after the fight ends, and these types of personal insults chip away at the mutual respect, love, and trust you have for each other.”

5. Enjoy happy hour together

The next time you and your spouse go out for the night, call a Lyft. Here’s why: Researchers from the University of Michigan analyzed feedback from 2,767 married couples who participated in a survey and found that those with similar drinking habits enjoyed happier lives together. The study revealed that if one partner remained sober while the other enjoyed drinks, they weren’t as satisfied in their marriage. All that to say the key to a happy marriage could be enjoying a happy hour here and there — without requiring one spouse to be the designated driver.

6. Make your spouse your priority

There will always be demands bidding for your attention and requiring your time, says Talya Knable, a Maryland-based licensed clinical professional counselor with expertise in relationships and life transitions. “In the end, though, your life partner is just that and you need to make sure that you give the relationship the attention it deserves,” she says. To do this, go on dates. Spend time talking after the kids go to bed. Schedule time to have lunch during a busy work week, Knable suggests. “A healthy marriage can be a foundation for a happy life, but that doesn’t just happen,” she says. “You need to prioritize it.”

7. Happy wife, happy life

A Rutgers University study found that the more content the wife is with a long-term union, the happier the husband is with his life. When a wife is satisfied with the marriage, she tends to do a lot more for her husband, which, in turn, has a positive effect on his life, the researchers concluded.

8. Don’t prioritize material things

The Beatles were onto something when the group crooned “Can’t Buy Me Love.” A Brigham Young University study found that higher levels of materialism are associated with less satisfaction in marriage. For the study, 1,310 married individuals were asked to rank how strongly they agreed or disagreed with statements such as “having nice things today is more important to me than saving for the future” and “having money is very important to me.” The researchers’ takeaway was that materialistic spouses may be seeking happiness in possessions, rather than people. That could mean they end up investing less time and energy into making their marriages successful.

9. Take dance lessons

Body language is essential for communication, points out dance therapist Erica Hornthal, with Chicago Dance Therapy. “The dance floor is a metaphor for how we dance in life with our partners,” Hornthal says. “You can quickly see if there is collaboration, consideration, compassion, and compromise.”

10. Text your partner sweet nothings

Go ahead and send those kissy-face emojis and “thinking of you” text messages. Expressing affection through text messages enhances relationships, according to research published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy. But, on the flip side, using text messages to apologize or sort out differences is associated with lower relationship quality for women, the study found. As for men, more texting doesn’t translate to a happier relationship. In fact, too much texting is associated with lower relationship quality, according to the study.…

7 Pieces of Bad Relationship Advice You Should Never Follow

Advice can differ. Family and friends have only good intentions and support in mind; others can spoil a relationship by giving bad advice out of jealousy. However, even the most sincere words of wisdom can sometimes have a very negative impact on a relationship.

Bright Side decided to figure out what kind of advice psychologists recommend avoiding at any cost if we want a relationship to be healthy and last longer.

1. “You should find someone better for yourself.”

If you’re only in a relationship because you want some personal profit, maybe you’re on the wrong track. Profit-seeking, according to psychologists, cannot be an adequate reason to start or end a relationship. In doing so, you can destroy a really happy marriage or start a life that doesn’t bring you any happiness at all.

2. “Show them who’s the boss. Don’t let them push you around!”

First of all, love partners have different fields of responsibility in a relationship, and it seems normal that each of them takes a leading role from time to time.

Only mutual understanding and respect of the partners can make a marriage work and make it really strong.

3. “Demand that your partner is romantic!”

Psychologists claim that there’s a certain romantic period in any relationship that commonly passes after some time. Partners can’t live forever like they’re in a romantic comedy, going crazy when they see each other.

That’s why you can’t demand that your partner is in the honeymoon phase of your relationship all the time. Every relationship has different phases of development, each with its own advantages.

4. “Stay quiet. Don’t make it worse.”

It’s almost impossible to avoid conflict in a relationship. However, it is better to resolve conflicts when they occur. You shouldn’t suppress your feelings and wait until they break out one day because this will cause more damage to the marriage. Don’t play the victim card. Discuss your feelings with your partner instead.

5. “Just read their chat. You have the right!”

Such interference in a partner’s personal life – making intrusive calls, reading personal chats, tracking locations – is considered by family law specialists to be the first step toward abusive behavior in a family.

It can be not only physical but emotional too. Don’t listen to this kind of advice, and don’t make your partner a hostage of your jealousy.

6. “Just remind him that what he earns isn’t enough.”

This advice is a great way to turn a little misunderstanding into a big conflict between partners. You know that, if you really want to, you can find a lot of mutual reproaches to make it all even worse.

Specialists say that you shouldn’t discuss such matters on a daily basis, and try not to mention something like this during a big conflict.

7. “Look at me and learn.”

Teaching by your own example works better with kids, not with love partners. You are not a child, and you shouldn’t repeat someone else’s behavior.

When you have marriage difficulties, don’t look at other families and try to copy their way of life. However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t try to avoid some of the mistakes they make.

You know better from the inside.

So why do we tend to listen to words that might bring us nothing good? Maybe because deep inside we believe that people can see better from the side, giving us rational advice.

However, it’s a very misleading feeling because your relationship is very complex and full of details no one knows but you two. That’s why you should listen only to your mind and your own heart.…

7 Sex Mistakes Men Make

Men: A change in thinking may improve your sex life. Get the details on seven common mistakes guys make with women, and learn how to avoid them.

Mistake 1: Sex Starts in the Bedroom

Men may turn on like a light, but for women, arousal doesn’t happen so fast, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD.

Pave the way during the day by hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Have some fun together, and show you appreciate her.

Feeling safe and secure in the relationship is key for a woman to really let loose during sex, Kerner says. A long hug can go further than you’d think. “Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates [a] sense of connection and trust.”

Mistake 2: Assume You Know What They Want

“Just as many women are faking orgasm today as 20 or 30 years ago,” Kerner says. So, if she’s not enjoying herself, you might not know it.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions like “How does this feel?” or “Do you want something different?”

In other words, ask for directions.

Mistake 3: Stick to Your Plan

Don’t think that “if it worked the first three times, it will work the next three times,” says sex therapist Sari Cooper, LCSW.

What turns her on may depend on her mood, and where she is in her monthly cycle. “Perhaps her nipples are more sensitive or her genitals are less tingly,” Cooper adds.

Pay attention to your partner, says psychologist Lonnie Barbach, PhD. “Try different things and see how she responds.”

When you find something that works, linger on it. Women often complain that men move on to the next thing just as they really start to enjoy an activity.

Mistake 4: Keep It Strictly Physical

Expand your idea of foreplay. Some men “focus on physical stimulation and often ignore mental stimulation,” Kerner says.

While men get stirred up by what they see, “women fantasize a lot during sex as part of [the] process of arousal.” Join in — share a fantasy or a sexy memory.

Mistake 5: Expect Intercourse to Give Them an Orgasm

For 80% of women, intercourse alone won’t do the trick. Why not? Most sex positions don’t directly stimulate the clitoris.

There are other ways to pleasure her. “Women orgasm much more consistently from oral sex than from intercourse,” Kerner says. Also, try sex with the woman on top, or a vibrator made for couples to use during sex. “Men should feel comfortable, not threatened, with sex toys,” he says.

To help her hit the high note when you do have sex, take time to get her going before you make your entrance. “The closer women are when they start intercourse, the more likely they are to have an orgasm,” Barbach says.

Mistake 6: Skip the Seduction

Women like to be seduced. “Seduction is as important as, or sometimes more important than, technique,” Cooper says.

It helps to know what kind of turn-on your partner likes, whether it’s oral, visual, or mental, she says. “Does your partner like it when you talk dirty over the phone or text? Trace your finger slowly up her chest? Flirt with her at a bar?”

Also, if you like what you see, say so. “Let a woman know how desirable she is,” Barbach says.

Mistake 7: Focus on Ringing the Bell

Most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, but it’s more complex than you may think.

Some men “don’t understand the anatomy of the clitoris,” Cooper says. It’s more than the small “button” you can see. Its nerve endings spread throughout the vulva and inside the vagina. All are potential pleasure points worth exploring.

“You can go back and forth,” Cooper says. Paying too much attention to the glans, at the top of the vulva, can take away from pleasure for some women. It’s so sensitive, that too much stimulation can hurt.…

12 Greatest Sex Tips for Women

There are countless books, instructional videos, and colorful diagrams devoted to answering the question, “How can I please my lover in bed?” While plenty (if not all) of this advice is helpful, perfecting your lovemaking techniques isn’t the sole path to having better sex—especially since not everyone’s brought to a mind-scrambling climax the same ways.

“Sex has no goal but pleasure and fun, and doesn’t always involve genitals, penetration or even orgasm, either,” says Dr. Chris Donaghue, sex and relationship therapist, podcast host, and author of Rebel Love. “Good sex is about play.”

In the spirit of enjoying the ride, we asked experts to recommend the best sex tips for women.

Get to know your own body, first and foremost.

Yes, “this means masturbation,” says Gigi Engle, certified sex coach and author of the upcoming All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life.

Knowing what brings you pleasure doesn’t just make sex more satisfying for you; it boosts your confidence during an encounter, making things more fun for everyone involved.

“So many women don’t spend time with themselves, nor do they devote enough time to really get to know what brings them pleasure,” Engle adds.

Ask your partner what they like.

Whether you’ve been together for years or just started seeing each other, it’s likely you’ll learn something new about your bedmate’s desires by…simply asking.

“Communication is a huge cornerstone of good sex,” Engle explains. “Asking each other what you like is pretty much the only way either of you is going to get what you want.”

If you’re sheepish about broaching the subject, preferring to go by moans alone, remember that it’s a chance to learn more about each other and make sex better in the long run. “We have a lot of shame and embarrassment in general around sex so talking about it can be nerve-wracking,” says Engle. She says,”Approach your partner with empathy, and express a desire to bring them the most pleasure possible. Then, share your desires as well.”

Sext your partner during the day.

Tap your phone’s potential as a seduction tool by sending sexy texts—a.k.a “sexts.”

“Sex and arousal can begin long before you’re face-to-face,” says Donaghue. “Building arousal prior to sexual engagement will lead to peak sexuality.”

You can share a fantasy, or describe—in detail—what you’d like to do to them later. If you’re both new to exchanging sexts, you might want to start off PG-13 and let things naturally escalate at your own pace. Only you can speak to the specific vibe of your text exchanges (such as whether peppering in some eggplant emoji will be met with laughter as opposed to confusion), so the main rule is to keep it playful.

One more tip: Fix your phone’s notification settings to prevent new messages from displaying on your lock screen. It’ll keep your steamy exchange away from coworkers and/or kids’ prying eyes.

Use (and ask for) multiple levels of stimulation.

You might strike up a dialogue about the speed or pressure your partner enjoys when you’re stroking them down there. And don’t neglect the rest of their body, either—skin is the body’s largest organ, after all.

“While performing oral sex or during intercourse, use your hands to stimulate other areas of the body, and ask partners to do the same to you,” Donaghue advises. Rub their thighs, stomach, and any other place they’ve let you know they like to be touched.

If your partner has a prostate, pay it some attention.

The prostate—the typically-walnut-sized gland located between a man’s penis and bladder—is most often discussed in a medical context. But Donaghue urges people not to “shame or avoid this powerful, pleasure-giving body part. It can lead to bigger, and even multiple orgasms.”

Some men are able to experience a prostate orgasm—as the International Society for Sexual Medicine points out, this earns its nickname as “the male G-spot.” You can massage the prostate with your hands, or stimulate it anally by inserting a finger or clean sex toy (you’ll want to get consent in a conversation before you try this, of course).

Lube makes everything go more smoothly.

It cannot be stressed enough: Lube is great for adults of every age.

“Too many women act under the false assumption that they should be getting so ‘wet’ that they don’t ‘need’ to use lube,” Engle says. “This is completely wrong. You should be using lube no matter the situation.”

Skipping personal lubricant can lead to vaginal tearing, irritation from friction, and pain during sex, Engle explains. “Lube also helps everything slide and slip more easily, providing a barrier between skin and fingers or toys,” she adds. To find the lubricant that’s best for you, here’s a lube 101 primer—and ten great options.

Follow your fantasies.

“What’s your fantasy?” isn’t just the title of an incredible Ludacris song; it’s a question you should know the answer to when it comes to your own. Sexual fantasies are far from unusual—in fact, here are eight of the most common ones.

Donaghue calls fantasies the “most honest parts of our sexuality.” While not every fantasy needs to be acted on in real life, they can serve as a valuable guide. “The arousing thoughts and ideas in your head, the types of porn that you watch, and the things out in the world that turn you on are all important aspects of your sexual psychology,” he says.

Try out new sex toys.

If you’ve never used a sex toy in the bedroom before, Donaghue recommends them to “amp up arousal and to explore diverse sensations.”

Once considered the province of perverts, toys have come a long way in terms of image, features, and the materials they’re made from. There’s an exciting product out there for every taste—like these 20 for couples to enjoy, for example.

Resist falling back on what “works.”

Donaghue says that though our turn-ons are “always evolving and changing,” it’s easy to “fall into sexual habits and routines, reinforcing the same sexual behaviors over and over.” Shake things up with different positions, role-play, or even just get busy in a new room (in or away from home). “Sex can be new and novel even with repeat partners,” he says.

Harness your attraction to other people.

Even those who are wholly devoted to a significant other can find themselves attracted to someone else. Instead of beating yourself up about your natural, hormonal reaction (or worse, acting on it and cheating), redirect those fired-up feelings and love the one you’re with. “If you’re turned on at work, or by someone you see at the gym, carry it with you and take that sexual energy home to use with your partner,” Donaghue says.

Don’t forget that “sex” means way more than just penetration.

“Sex doesn’t have a hierarchy wherein one act is better or more important than the other,” Engle says. To that end, she recommends more oral sex all around—not just giving, but receiving, too.

Your pleasure will be a turn-on for your partner, and Engle urges you to “take as long as you need to fully enjoy yourself, and orgasm, if that’s on the table. Getting fully aroused is crucial before having intercourse, as the vagina naturally lubricates and expands, and oral sex can get you there.”

Don’t fixate on orgasm as the only goal.

Intense Os are great, but they’re not the be-all and end-all, and pressure to perform is like a cold splash of ice water on an otherwise good time. “Putting focus on orgasm puts you into a negative feedback loop,” Engle explains. “You pressure yourself to orgasm, which gives you anxiety about not having an orgasm, which in turn makes you too anxious to orgasm.”.

“Instead of thinking of sex as a performance with a big finale, think of it as a journey,” says Engle. “This will actually make you more likely to orgasm. When you don’t feel pressured, you can experience your full range of pleasure.”…

People From 9 Different Countries Explain Foreign Foreplay

Perspectives on love, sex, and all things relationships vary around the world. So we talked to ladies and gents from nine countries about the basics on love, sex, foreplay, and more. Their answers are below.

How would you define love?

America: A magnetism toward someone/something with whom you feel an intimate, fair, warm oneness, who regards you comparably and whose heart capacity you find extraordinary and dynamic.

France: An infinite connection between two people, romantic or not.

Romania: Attraction. Mentally, physically, sexuality.

England: I would define love as a state in time where you feel your most comfortable with someone, if that’s emotional or physical.

Canada: When two people would do anything for each other and accept each other for their weaknesses.

Germany: Love is like that stupid song that is stuck in your head that you just have to hum or sing the entire time without knowing why. You pretend to be annoyed by it but you totally enjoy it. Or it is like cake, it is delicious but it is going to ruin me…

China: When you care enough about somebody to want to make their life better.

Spain: Sharing the same interests with someone and connecting spiritually.

Holland: I would define love as something beyond everything — it’s the reason behind life.

Do you believe you can truly be in love with more than one person?

America: Possibly. I think too often people mistake infatuation for love.

England: Honestly no, I think you can lose your attraction to someone and fall for another but never love someone at the same time equally.

France: Yes.

Romania: Hell yeah, it’s the gypsy way.

Canada: Absolutely, there’s millions of people to choose from, there’s obviously going to be more than one person you can fall in love with.

Germany: Yes. You are not the same person for your entire life. You change and so do your feelings.

China: Yes.

Spain: No I don’t believe you can. Not in a serious deep love. Only in lust maybe but not love.

Holland: Of course you can be truly in love with more people but it’s up to you to choose between them because i think you can’t be in love with 2 people it’s not fair for the other.

Do you think you can fall out of true love? Have you ever stopped loving someone?

America: Not True Love because it’s our underlying nature.  However, Romantic Love… yes, and I have fallen out of Romantic Love with more than one person.

France: Yes.. Time changes everything. You should embrace the moment when you have it.

Romania: I don’t really think you can ever stop loving someone, but the intensity of the love can die down, you might be less attracted to them but you’ll always have love for them

England: I believe you can, even if it’s true love. However, you’re always going to have a degree of love for the person no matter what. I think personally, I have been in this situation where I’ve loved someone so much and then it just didn’t work out, and now I’ve found myself where I’ve lost the attraction I once had so strongly. I’ll always still have deep down that love and spark with them though just not at the degree we had before. This is why I believe it was true love.

Canada: Hard question to answer because I’ve never been in deep love. But as Finding Nemo would quote, “You got yourself in there, you can get yourself out.”

Germany: I don’t think you can ever really stop loving someone you once loved. Your feelings may change but a part of you will always be attached to that person. You have shared too much and even if it is in the past, it is still part of you. Feelings change, the past does not.

China: Yes.. Depends on if a person changes or if you fundamentally change, like if you go through a life event that fundamentally changes who you are. No, I have never stopped loving someone.

Spain: I believe so.. 100%.  No I haven’t.. I have been frustrated and angry but never stopped loving.

Holland: Love is something magical , and i truly believe you can’t fall out of love if you really love that person so much! But everything is different for everyone, this is my view on it. Love for someone would never fade away but it can become a lot less if someone hurts you.

Choose one: loving yourself or loving someone else?

America: Loving myself… technically… all we have is ourselves and what’s behind our own eyes.

France: Yourself.

Romania: You gotta love yourself first! 100%. You have to love yourself above all.

England: Loving yourself. As vain as it sounds, It’s important to know your balance before you move to someone.

Canada: I believe you can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself.

Germany: I think you have to love yourself in order to love someone else. True love means giving all of you to someone else. If I would not love that (for the most part) why would I give it to someone special? My partner deserves the best, so I have to be my best self only to become even better through my partner.

China: Love yourself first. In the sense of being comfortable with who you are, not in the narcissistic way.

Spain: I would rather love someone else.

Holland: Loving yourself first because how are you going to love someone else if you can’t love yourself.

What do you value most about a relationship?

America: Kind, giving, understanding, trusting, sharing behavior and intense physical attractiveness.

France: The intimacy.

Romania: Honesty and trust, knowing that that person is going to be there for you

England: The adventure that comes with it and just being able to be on a level of comfort that you’re not with anyone else continuously.

Canada: Trust, without it any kind of relationship will fail.

Germany: Loyalty, trust and understanding. To me a relationship should be a partnership where both sides bring out the best in the other and help fix the worst while tolerating it.

China: Being able to depend on someone.

Spain: Trust.

Holland: The connection between each other and being yourself.

What is the most important – mental attraction, physical attraction, emotional attraction, spiritual attraction?

America: Emotional and Physical attraction.

France: I am usually initially attracted physically, but I have to mentally attracted to develop a relationship with them

Romania: Mental. No question. If they aren’t mentally stimulated, its not happening.

London: Spiritual attraction 100%!

Canada: Although they all play a role, I would probably say emotional attraction. You can’t be in love with someone you don’t have any emotional connection or feelings for.

Germany: Physical attraction is important to some extend but love is a combination of all of them with an emphasis on mental and emotional attraction. I don’t just want to look at my partner, I much prefer having a conversation or being with them in general.

China: Emotional.

Spain: All.. it has to be all.

Holland: They all matter a lot.

Most important quality you look for in a companion?

America: A caring, understanding, giving, loving heart.

France: Intelligence and pure intentions

Romania: Someone who is in line with my morals and qualities

England: Uniqueness. Confident uniqueness, someone who’s not afraid to be themselves and will show it.

Canada: Their personality is definitely the most important, but more specially I look for someone who is on the same mental level as me. Whether that’s sharing the same opinion on important life decisions or just their sense of humour.

Germany: A unique brain that is equally as weird as mine is.

China: Trust, dependant, fun..enjoy each others company and have a common interest.

Spain: Responsibility.

Holland: Beautiful from the inside is for me much more important than the outside.

Would you ever have an open relationship?

America: Probably not.

France: No, what is the point?

Romania: Not if I cared deeply about her, however the gypsy culture allows males to stray but the female must stay loyal.

England: Yeah, as long as no one’s getting hurt.

Canada: The only reason I see for an open relationship is a commitment issue, so I would consider it depending on if that issue was distance or just infidelity.

Germany: No. If I commit to someone, I commit. If you want to be with other people, be single and enjoy yourself. If you are in a relationship, be happy and enjoy each other.

China: NO.

Spain: No, it wouldn’t be fair to either.

Holland: No never, it’s like ordering a tea and everyone can take a sip of it. That’s a no for me.

Hardest thing you’ve dealt with in a relationship?

America: My own trust and jealousy issues.

France: Keeping interest and not losing the spark.

Romania: Balancing several girls at once [blame the gypsy way].

England: Distance by far.

Canada: Lack of trust, which is key to a relationship.

Germany: Trying to be something I am not to avoid hurting someone but in the process losing myself and prolonging the separation that turned out to be best for both of us. Also, long distance…

China: Trust and mutual respect.

Spain:  Accepting their flaw when they started to affect my well being.

Holland: To find out that they were cheating, that was pretty sad.

Have you ever cheated? Have you ever been cheated on? What caused them and/or you to do so?

America:  I have never cheated, but I have been cheated on once when I was very young.  I was at home sick, and she was out with a group of older folks and grew tempted.

France: Yes I have – I was not fully invested in my relationship and I had a stronger connection to someone else at that time. I broke up with my girlfriend shortly after. No, I have never been cheated on.

Romania: Yes.

England: No I have never cheated nor been cheated on. I don’t see why people do it

Canada: I’ve been cheated on. Simply because of immaturity and they weren’t ready for a relationship.

Germany: I have never been cheated on and I have never cheated. I would not commit to someone only to betray them. If I want to be free then I don’t commit. A relationship is more than sex and a cool facebook update. It is about trust and being able to rely on someone. I have no intentions of ever betraying someone like that.

China: No I have not. No I have not been cheated on, not to my knowledge.

Spain: No I have not, but yes I have been. Why? Probably lack of communicating and not spending quality time together.

Holland: I have never cheated on someone but someone did on me, I was heartbroken but hey, things happen with a reason, i’ve learned from it and need to go on with life.

Do you believe in soulmates?

America: I believe we have lots of soulmates or people with whom we share a grand communion… lots and lots of people.

France: Perhaps, if you are lucky enough to find yours.

Romania: Eh, not really. You gotta make it work and a lot of people match up with what I like but I don’t know if they are my soulmates.

England: I believe there’s a certain someone for everyone, so yes definitely.

Canada: No. I mean yes, there are going to be people out there that are perfect for you, but there is an abundance, not just one you are destined to be with

Germany: Yes, just not only one.

China: Yes, goes along with connection.

Spain: I do. I believe it’s connected to spirituality.

Holland: Yes, I really do.

How does your culture view sex? (i.e. should it be sacred, exclusive, an act of casual pleasure, etc)

America: Sacred, Exclusive, and Casual… But it is very tough to say exactly.…

3 Things on How Self-Love Become a Must in Every Marriage

It is pure bliss when two people in love join in marriage. However, marriage comes with many ups and downs, many challenges, and a lot of obstacles you and your partner need to overcome as a married couple.


The difficulties of marriage have made many couples quit on one another, resulting in countless divorces. Despite these sad facts, many people still desire to marry and maintain their marriages. Many people cite unhappiness and lack of love in a marriage, but it’s really self-love that needs to be improved.


How does self-love help in marriage, and why is it so important? Is it one of the guides to a successful marriage? Come along and see why we think self-love is vital for a successful marriage.

How Do You Define Self-Love?

Many may define self-love as a day at the spa or a date night at your favorite restaurant. Self-love is more than that. Self-love is everything you do to show appreciation and compassion for yourself. It’s all the things you do to make yourself feel better and the fact that you’re satisfied with yourself and your life in general.


In simple words, self-love is the act of taking care of yourself. It means accepting yourself fully as an individual, being kind to yourself, and engaging in nurturing your wellbeing.


Self-conscious people and those who love themselves are kind to themselves, affecting their overall mental health. For instance, someone who practices self-love has a very low risk of depression. Why? When you love yourself, you tend to be less harsh on yourself.


If you make a wrong decision, you may not be too harsh on yourself and may not regret your decision. You may regret the outcome of decisions, but you can accept the outcome quickly and move on with your life.

Self-Love Keeps You Mentally Prepared for Everything

One main reason that causes disappointments and unhappiness in marriages is high expectations. You get into marriage expecting someone to be exactly who they were while dating. Sadly, when you start living together as husband and wife, you get to see their weaknesses and some habits you didn’t notice before. Perhaps you have heard marriage advice revolving around failed marriage expectations.


Someone who is already good at loving themselves will handle issues as they come up in marriage. They are assertive enough about the problem that may arise in their marriage. Self-love also demands that you always make healthy choices.


Self-love prepares you for when you need to decide something in your marriage. Then, you will be ready to make a decision that will benefit both you and your spouse. It also minimizes the chances of a spouse blaming their partners if anything goes wrong. 


A spouse who practices self-love will accept the wrong and be mentally ready to correct their mistakes. They are also aware that people are not perfect, so they can find a solution, forgive, and move on if they see a wrong in their relationships.


Challenging oneself is also another character of self-love. If you face any issue in your marriage, you can challenge yourself to make the marriage work despite the setbacks.

Self-Love Teaches You How You Should Be Treated

Many people may advocate for a thriving marriage despite the challenges experienced in marriage. However, a toxic marriage may cause further damage to the people involved. Unfortunately, some people in marriage may not be aware of the toxicity in their marriage, and they may accept the worst done to them for the sake of staying together with their partner.


Self-love teaches you how people should treat you and how you need to treat other people. For example, when you practice self-love, you will identify emotional abuse fast, unlike someone who does not practice loving themselves. In addition, self-love will teach you when you should let it go and when you need to leave a marriage.


Also, when you know how you should be treated, you will pass the same to your partner and treat them the way you would want them to treat you. You will automatically avoid mistreating your spouse.


If your spouse also practices self-love, they will also avoid hurting you, making the marriage a happy and safe place to live in. On the other hand, when you don’t know anything about self-love, you may accept anything done to you, and in the long run, you may suffer low self-esteem.

Self-Love Is Attributed With Peace and Contentment

Self-love allows people to accept who they are and their abilities. So this subsequently brings about peace and contentment. When someone accepts themselves and their abilities, they are content with what they can produce, which gives them peace.


Without self-love,  you may find yourself comparing yourself to others, and in this case, you may even compare your marriage to another marriage. Comparison is a setup for failure, and no marriage would thrive if one spouse is constantly comparing their relationship to a relationship they see on a TV show or social media.


On the other hand, self-love teaches you to be content with yourself and what you have. It teaches you that what you see on the outside may be different from what is inside. 


Accepting what you have allows you to enjoy it in peace. Comparison causes envy and wanting to have what the picture shows you. Problems may arise when you can’t have what you have desired, thus robbing the peace in your marriage.

Is It Really Effective?

Yes, self-love is effective if both spouses are practicing it. With self-love, spouses can reduce the chances of depressing each other. Self-esteem is enhanced when people practice self-love. It’s a contagious trait, and even one partner practicing self-love will make the second partner want to make themselves better.

With high self-esteem, jealousy and insecurities don’t have a chance in a person. Also, with self-love, couples will avoid treating each other with disrespect and stop abusing each other.


Appreciating what you have is also a character developed when you practice self-love. This translates into spouses enjoying that they are married to each other, and therefore each will work to sustain and keep the fire burning in their marriage.

Practice Self Love

As we have seen, self-love is essential for both an individual and a married couple. Self-love will significantly help enhance your marriage and your overall self. Here are some self-love tips that you can try to make your life better:


  • Don’t compare yourself to others
  • Spend time with people who support you
  • Pursue your goals and interests
  • Embrace your mistakes
  • Trust yourself
  • Process your fears
  • Don’t worry about other people’s opinions
  • Don’t value yourself according to how your body looks
  • Put yourself first
  • Embrace all of your emotions
  • Always be kind to yourself
  • Take care of your health

Everything You Can Do with a 9 inch Dildo

Do you know how to use a 9-inch dildo? Ok, understanding the principle is easy, but do you know how to use it to enjoy all its benefits? If your answer is no, it is time to rethink your relationship with the saying whose!! After all, the days are gone, when female pleasure was used to be treated as a social taboo. Dildos aside, what matters is that you deserve to feel good about your body and your sexuality. This is fundamental to develop your self-esteem and personal satisfaction.

Even for the most experienced sexual adventurers, having an orgasm with a 9inch dildo can look confusing. Where to put them, how quickly to define them, and what exactly to do with them are valid questions. Moreover, if you intend to invest in a good toy, you must make sure that you are getting the maximum return.

So, dear readers – whether you’re new to or knowledgeable about 9-inch dildos – we’ve put together this guide based on comments from sex educators and women who create (literally!) sex toys for a living. We hope you never have a monotonous vibe again!

How to Get the Most out of Your 9-inch Dildo

  1. Start exploring your body

Want to know how to use a 9-inch dildo in the most pleasurable way possible? Start by getting to know your body! You need to explore its curves, discover its greatest qualities and, of course, know the points that give you the greatest pleasure. This will help you in making out how the vibrator should be positioned to provide you with an incredible feel.

Start by just sliding your hands all over your body in a peaceful environment and relax. The only goal here is your discovery, not orgasm or anything like that.

  1. How to use 9-inch dildo- Indispensable questions while buying one

Here we like smart shopping, whatever the product is- and the same goes for 9-inch dildos as well. Before you buy, ask yourself the following questions to ensure you are taking home the right model for you!!

Does my orgasm occur by penetrating or stimulating the clitoris?

  • About 75% of women say that they need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, so the best thing for these women is to buy a 9-inch dildo that comes with clitoral stimulation tools.

Can I use my dildo alone or with someone?

  • External 9-inch dildos are ideal to use during sex as they can be positioned on the clitoris or the penis. Now, if your goal is to feel pleasure alone, opt for an insertable 9-inch vibrator and have fun!

Can I use my dildo in the shower?

  • Yes, you can!! However, if this is one of your goals, don’t forget to buy a 100% waterproof device.
  1. Research the prices before buying your 9-inch dildo

One more rule that should be used for everything you buy, including dildos, is- researching prices and quality. There are thousands of sex shops on the streets and online, so several model options and prices can be found. But be careful!! If there’s a vast difference in values, be wary!

Generally, the expensive dildos are made with silicone, glass, and materials that do not harm the body, and they last much longer.  Visit the lovegasm store for price comparison and for more options.

  1. Scrutinize your dildo before using it

Now that you have bought your dildo, you can hardly wait to start using it, right!? We understand your anxiety, but first of all, take a good look at your device. See if it’s in perfect condition, find the on/off button, and discover the features it has, such as the intensity and vibration control.

It may seem silly, but these straightforward attitudes will make you feel safer when handling your “toy.” It’s essential to ensure that you don’t miss a beat in time H.

  1. Don’t be ashamed of creating a mood

Dildo + romance? Oops! Many women think that romanticism should be reserved exclusively for a relationship for two, but the truth is that falling in love with yourself is everything to guarantee personal pleasure.

Don’t be ashamed to light candles, put on your best clothes, and put on sexy lingerie even on nights when you will be alone. As we have already said, discovering your strengths is essential to enjoy your dildo.

  1. Stay focused

One of the biggest mistakes while masturbating is letting external thoughts interfere with the moment. When it comes to touching, you must stay focused only on your pleasure. It will help in driving the dildo in the right way to ensure more prolonged stimuli.

  1. Use an only water-based lubricant

Silicone-based lubricants can cause the material in your dildo to start to wear out and decrease its durability. Always pick water-based lubricants.

  1. Explore more areas

Use the 9-inch dildo around the edge of the anus for a nice feeling. This is also a great way to introduce that region before diving into penetration slowly.

  1. Try anal penetration

With a safe toy (which has a more extensive base to keep from getting lost) and a lot of lubricants, anal penetration with vibrations can be super pleasurable.

  1. Cleanliness is important

Many women leave this aside, but one of the essential steps on how to use a 9-inch dildo is to remember to sanitize it after every use. If your vibrator is not cleaned correctly, your chances of getting an unwanted infection will be very high. There are some specific products for cleaning them in sex shops. However, neutral soap, clean cloths, and water are also efficient enough!!

Hope this helps!! Get your 9-inch dildo today and make your lonely nights a real fun!!…

Want to enjoy Orgasm without your Partner: here is the Guide for you

How to simulate a blowjob without a girl! This is the question of many men sex lovers and from this hidden desire only sex toy manufacturers has generated different sex toys for men. Sex toys for men who have everything and want more: These sex toys are the most satisfying and luxurious in the world. The stunning intensity through perfectly shaped design guarantees longer presence. These sex toys help improving sex life.

The most erotic toys for men are called duke, flame and cobra libre. Masturbators, cock rings, vibrators and co are very popular because the fantasies of the strong sex are diverse. Let’s find out how man comes up to scratch and more sinful secrets.

He just wants to play: Love toy for men

Men’s toys – these are no longer just fast cars, planes or boats. Also in terms of erotic toys, the men’s world so much is offered. But what is actually meant by the term “sex toys for men”? In principle, every sex toy is a tool for reducing natural sexual desire. Other toys that are not invasive, on the other hand, are for boosting sexual experience like the result you will get in using sex swings in different ways.

In the men’s so-called masturbators, penis rings and stimulators for the most intimate places are in high demand. With the variety of erotic toys like butt plugs for call girls, you can quickly lose the overview. Two, three hot favorites should be remembered.

Prostate stimulators – the P-spot

Man should definitely get to know the duke: a princely prostate stimulator for connoisseurs and connoisseurs of anal pleasures. In terms of “pinpoint” stimulation, men are in no way inferior to women. They have their own point. The massage of the male P-spot provides for erotic high-altitude flights with sufficient lubrication and sensitive skills an unforgettable experience.

Masturbators – a captivating pleasure experience

Cobra Libre – even when pronouncing the name, tingling scenes play in the head. This manly toy is the sex toy for the discerning man. When penetrating into the masturbator, the glands displaces soft silicone and, at the same time, becomes enticingly tight. Two powerful motors provide precise stimulation with pulsating vibrations below the sensitive glands.

Cock rings – Yes, I want!

A cock ring, also called cock ring, is a ring made of leather, latex, rubber, silicone, soft plastic or metal that is placed around the penis, glands or scrotum. The soft, elastic penis rings ensure a longer-lasting and harder erection. Although the mild congestion effect is not dangerous, the rings should not be worn for more than 20-30 minutes. At Bombshell, not only women get their money’s worth: in “Toys 4 Boys” department, men also find a large selection of sex toys. Masturbators, prostate stimulators, love dolls, penis extender – it serve every taste.

All items offered in the “Toys 4 Boys” section can be conveniently paid by invoice, provided that the total amount does not exceed CHF 200. In advance by bank transfer we grant a discount of 2 percent. Other payment options include PayPal, credit card (Visa / Master) and Post Finance. The items will be sent in a neutral package to the specified address. Choose among hundreds of high-quality men’s toys and get your items delivered discreetly home!

Varied range of penile rings

Cock rings have always been among the best-selling sex toys for men. There is simply no better and cheaper way than to make the “best friend” more size and steadfastness. Here you will find penis rings in all imaginable variants: made of metal or TPE, with or without vibrator function, classic round or crown-shaped – the choice is yours.

Especially interesting are cock ring sets, which are available in many different colors and designs. The rings are also partially to use for testicle lacing and give you an erection that can be seen. Whether with nubs or grooves: Cock rings from “Toys 4 Boys” department provide more endurance and a more intense cum shot.

The most popular masturbators from the Flesh light series

The Flesh light series from Pipedream has set new standards in the field of sex toys. Never before have there been masturbators where the stimulation feels so realistic. In “Toys 4 Boys” section, we present the most popular models from the worldwide popular Flesh light collection.

How about pushing a hot number with US porno goddess Stoya or getting Jessica Drake anal? These and other sexual dreams become reality with the purchase of a flesh light. The ultra-realistic “Real Feel Super Skin” material provides a masturbation experience that is almost addictive. When closed, a flesh light is reminiscent of a flashlight – no one asks you uncomfortable questions.

If you want to give your loved one a little pleasure, we have a special delicacy for him here: the Cobra of Fun Factory gets him on tour! This is ensured by two power-charged motors, which can be controlled separately from each other. A wide range of individually adjustable vibration possibilities makes for an incredible feeling, around 100 dollars.

It is probably no secret that men also need their toys: whether a beautiful car, the latest electronic gadgets or the model train in the basement – men’s toys are as varied and diverse as the men of creation itself and also in terms of sex toys. It does not look much different for men. In order to meet the sexual needs and erotic desires of the men’s world, we therefore have a wide range of great sex toys for men around the most beautiful thing in the world. With our sex toys for men man is guaranteed to get his money and certainly finds one or the other sex toy for own collection.

If you are looking for the perfect equipment for lonely hours and you like to spoil yourself with more than just your own hand, you should find what you are looking for in our sex toys for men. Masturbators, for example, make masturbation a very special experience. Designed as a realistic-looking pussy, mouth, butt or stylish, our sex toys for men made of soft skin-like material are always and everywhere available to make men’s dreams come true.

Insider tip: For all those who may be a little bit more and who do not want to settle for just one body part, this sex toy for men is the perfect choice. The sometimes very detailed dolls life size offer stimulating body openings, thick breasts with stiff nipples and realistic facial features with hair and are optionally available as a transsexual version with a large penis. Everyone will find the right sex toys for men!…

13 Unusual Sexual Practices From Around The World

People have been getting freaky in the bedroom (and outdoors) for centuries, and sometimes, things get pretty crazy. Whether it’s because of tradition, culture or just general kinkiness, there’s a bunch of weird sexual customs the world over that make you go WTF.

Check them out!

1. Boys & girls of the Sambian tribe have to drink semen

The Sambian Tribe of New Guinea have a tradition of separating their boys from the girls at the age of 7 for 10 years. During this period, they undergo piercings, nose bleeds and have to drink the semen of the tribes mightiest warriors. Game over. It is note-worthy that these semen have quality too! This is because semen are collected from men who wore chastity cages whole summer.

2. Girls of the Trobriander Tribe engage in sexual acts from age 6

The Trobriander Tribe from Papua, New Guinea embrace sexuality from an astonishingly young age. Boys start engaging in sexual activity from the age of 10-12, while the girls start from 6 years! Isn’t that illegal?

3. In Mangaia, older women have sex with young boys

In Mangaia, an island in the South Pacific Ocean, boys around the age of 13 have sex with older women who teach them the intricacies of the act and how best to please their partners. One way ticket please!

4. In Rural Austria, women feed armpit-flavoured apples to their suitor

In rural Austria, young women do a ritual dance with apple slices stuffed in their armpits. After the dance, each gives her slice to the man of her choice, and he then eats it.

5. The Kreung Tribe builds love huts where teenaged girls can have sex with different men till they find the one

With the Kreung Tribe in Cambodia, the elders build a love-hut for their teenage daughters. Different boys spend the night here day after day, until she finds a suitable partner, who is then with her for life.

6. In Ancient Greece, men took young boys as lovers

For Ancient Greeks, sexual identity didn’t depend on gender and preference but on who was the active penetrator and who was the penetratee(?). The active role was associated with higher social status, while the passive role meant youth and feminity, or ‘boy love’ in other words.

7. In certain Nepali tribes, brothers share one woman

Some Nepali tribes in the Himalays practise polyandry. Basically, all the brothers share one woman, so that they don’t have too many children for their limited farmland.

8. The Wodaabe Tribe holds a wife-stealing festival every year

In the Wodaabe Tribe of Niger in West Africa, children are married in their infancy. However, at the yearly Gerewol Festival, Wodaabe men wear elaborate makeup and costumes and try to covertly steal another’s wife. If they go undetected, their union becomes recognised.

9. Public masturbation ceremonies were held in Ancient Egypt

Ancient Egypt was obsessed with masturbation. They believed the ebb and flow of the Nile was caused by their god of creation’s ejaculation. Thus, the would ritually masturbate into the Nile to ensure a wealth of water for crops. During the Egyptian festival of the god Min, who represented the pharaoh’s sexual power, men regularly masturbated in public.

10. In Indonesia, you can have sex outside marriage during Pon celebration

During the celebration of Pon in Indonesia, participants have to spend the night and have intercourse with someone other than their wife or husband. It is said that their wishes of good luck will only come true if they have sex with the same person at all seven celebrations throughout the year.

11. Adolescents of the Muria Tribe, Chattisgarh, can ‘practise’ sex without emotional attachment

The Muria Tribe from Chattisgarh have a very sexually liberated culture. They have mixed-sex dormitories where adolescents are sent to practice premarital sex, sometimes with a single partner and sometimes serially. They are discouraged from becoming emotionally attached to their partners.

12. In Inis Beag, near Ireland, people make love with their underwear on

The people of Inis Beag, an island off the coast of Ireland, are so sexually repressed that they keep their underwear on even during sexual intercourse. Smart.

13. Women of the Guajiro tribe must make a man ‘fall’ to make love

Colombia’s Guajiro people have a ceremonial dance. If a woman trips a man during the dance, they must have sex.…